Some people assume that they’re being humble or self-effacing when they speak negatively about themselves. What they don’t realize however, is that low self-esteem and negative self-talk can hold you back from being truly successful and happy in life. It is not self-centered or conceited to have a healthy, positive self-image.

When you’ve developed a habit of low self esteem and a negative view of yourself, it can be a real challenge to turn it around. These three tips will help you make that mental U-turn.

• Positive Self-Talk

A shift in thinking starts by identifying your negative thought patterns. Perhaps you aren’t consciously thinking that you are stupid or ugly, or some other overtly negative thought; however, even mildly condemning thoughts can be very damaging to your self-esteem and confidence. If you regularly feel that others deserve better treatment than you or if you feel that your talents or ideas are not important, these thoughts can be just as damaging as those more obviously negative thoughts.

This is such a common trend that few people even stop to think about it. It takes a real, conscious effort to turn this habit around, so take time to pinpoint specific areas that are influenced by your negative self-talk. You may find that your negative thought patterns are pretty widespread; however, start by targeting one or two specific areas. If you’re unsure where to start, ask a friend to help you pinpoint the prevalent negative patterns in your words and behavior.

Once you better understand the areas you need to work on, develop some positive affirmations to replace those negative thoughts. Throughout the day – especially, when you find yourself reverting to your negative thought patterns or actions – repeat those affirmations to yourself.

• Positive Reinforcement

Once you’ve recognized some negative thought patterns, and have started to replace them with new positive ones, it’s time to reinforce those positive thought patterns in your mind. Fill your mind with positive uplifting thoughts by reading and listening to uplifting material. Spend time daily reading a devotional or motivational book or listening to uplifting music or audio books. When your mind is full of the positive, it leaves little room for the negative to creep back in.

A mind filled with negativity and low self-esteem is like a dark room. To chase the darkness out, all you really need to do is let in the light. Fill your mind with the light of positive affirmations, positive thoughts, and positive input.

• Positive Action

When you have been hindered by low self-esteem, all the positive thoughts in the world will only get you so far. Once you’ve set your mind on the right track, it’s time to take positive action. Do something every day to directly combat those feelings of low self-esteem.

The steps you take don’t have to be big ones. Start small and as your confidence grows, you’ll find yourself taking greater strides forward. If you feel inferior in the world of technology, for example, take small steps each day to learn and try something new. If you’re shy, push yourself to greet others or initiate conversations.

These three simple steps will get you over the hill and on your way to a positive self-image and a happy, successful future.